the scene: while sitting at the breakfast bar eating a snack; out of the blue.
graham: life is so disappointing.
me: (chuckling) really? why is life so disappointing?
graham: always having to take care of my older brother.
me: (no longer chuckling)
the bible says "how good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity."
lately i question the balance between the good and the pleasant...
the things that don't feel good nor pleasant...
and the unity that can be found between the two.
graham truly has been gifted with the unique ability to read a situation and adjust it to meet harrison's needs. this intuitiveness is special and will serve him well his whole life long.
conversely, graham has become harrison's guide - looking out for, standing up for, speaking on behalf of, leading the way for, a comforting sidekick - starting when he was very little (younger than two). a job he took on himself and one i, admittedly, placed him in a few times too many.
what does a mother do when her son expresses discouragement that his gift has become a burden?
schedule counseling appointments then write a blog post, of course. :)
ponder it; put the question out into the universe and pray for an answer.
sit with him in life's disappointment.
teach him to think on the positive aspects of his relationship with his brother.
show him unity isn't a treasure to be found...
it is beauty we must create.